10 Lesbian Sex Tips
In honor of PRIDE month, we are offering 10 Lesbian Sex Tips that will take your intimate life from a simmer to a sizzle.
SEX TIP #1: COMMUNICATE
Everything hinges on this one word–communication. Lasting relationships and meaningful sexual encounters are built on a strong verbal connection. You and your partner need to find a rhythm of good communication before sex and good communication during sex. Why? Because knowing your lover as a whole person will allow you to better read their expressions, body language, and understand their needs.
As you talk to each other, it’s important to go beyond small talk and dig into the deeper layers—life goals, childhood, embarrassing moments, greatest memories, and family dynamics (does the family know you’re out or is grandma still in the dark?) By talking openly, you grow closer to your partner and trust is built. That same trust will carry into the bedroom.
“Knowing your lover as a whole person will allow you to better read their expressions, body language, and understand their needs.”
SEX TIP #2: SHOW RESPECT
Respect is a biggie. When you prioritize what your partner needs or feels, it shows that they matter to you. Respect is shown by honoring sexual preferences and boundaries. For example, if you know that your partner doesn’t like certain positions, then you need to honor that. Likewise, you need to know and respect your own boundaries. If something bothers you, tell your lover. Honesty and openness will enhance your relationship and romance.
Another part of respect is calling your partner by their desired gender pronouns. This not only demonstrates respect, but also love for who they are.
“You need to know and respect your boundaries. If something bothers you, tell your lover. Honesty and openness will enhance your relationship and romance.”
SEX TIP #3: KEEP EACH OTHER SAFE
Caring for your lady-love means that you’re making sure to keep them safe sexually too. You should discuss STIs, if screenings are needed, and safe sex measures. Remember that “STIs can be spread anytime there’s skin-to-skin contact or when body fluids are spread.” The assumption that sexually transmitted infections can only be transmitted through penetration is incorrect. STIs can pass through oral sex, nipple stimulation, vaginal fingering, etc.
SEX TIP #4: BODY CHECK
Lesbian bodies come in many forms. It’s important to validate your lover’s gender identity and how they enjoy being touched. Depending on their genitals, they might have certain do’s and don’ts.
SEX TIP #5: CUT YOUR NAILS
For fingering, fondling, or massaging, long nails can pose a problem. The last thing you want to do is scratch your partner during sex.
SEX TIP #6: GIVE GOOD ORAL
(If the answer is yes, please…) Use more than just your tongue in oral. Kiss, blow, and move your mouth over her labia. Insert your fingers into her vagina to stimulate the G-spot while you lick and suck.
SEX TIP #7: BECOME A BOOB EXPERT
Every pair is different. While you might enjoy some biting or harder sucking, she might be sensitive. Or vice versa. Start out with a gentle exploration. Cup her boobs gently, trace her nipples with your finger, and kiss them. Explore her areola with your mouth and tongue, increasing the pressure according to her desires.
SEX TIP #8: USE ACCESSORIES
If toys are a go, try out different vibrators and dildos. Remember to lubricate for better glide. You can also wear a strap-on harness with a dildo for different sex positions. Make sure to always clean your sex toys after every use.
SEX TIP #9: USE VELLA WOMEN’S PLEASURE SERUM
This serum is tested for cis women’s genitalia, but it is open to all users. This arousal serum relaxes the clitoral and vaginal smooth muscle tissue, making the journey to orgasm easier, more satisfying, and more frequent. Check it out here.
SEX TIP #10: PICK GOOD LESBIAN SEX POSITIONS.
"Because of our hetero and penis-centric culture, many believe that vaginal or anal sex are imperative for sexual satisfaction," says Wendasha Jenkins-Hall, PhD, a sex educator who specializes in the wellbeing of women and femmes. "But the clitoris is key—its sole purpose and function is pleasure." This is why Lesbian sex is especially spicy…it focuses on the clit and erogenous zones!
"Because of our hetero and penis-centric culture, many believe that vaginal or anal sex are imperative for sexual satisfaction. But the clitoris is key—its sole purpose and function is pleasure." ~ Wendasha Jenkins-Hall, Sex Educator
Here are 6 Orgasm-Inducing Sex Positions:
1. 69
This position is achieved by one woman lying on top of the other, facing the opposite direction. Then, both of your mouths land directly between each other’s legs. This position can also be done lying on your sides.
2. Queening
The “queen” will sit on her partner’s face, giving her control over the motion and pace in which her vulva and clitoris connect with the mouth and tongue of her partner.
3. The Delegator
One partner will sit in a chair or on the edge of a bed, while the other kneels between her legs (put a pillow under knees for comfort). The seated partner will lift her legs, wrapping them around the kneeling partner’s neck and shoulders. She can adjust her angle and hip movements as the other partner goes to work.
4. Double Missionary
Have you heard of a double-sided dildo? This position requires this splendid accessory. Lubing up both ends, come together for a fun missionary-style ride. This position allows you to caress and move at the same time.
5. Spooning
Cuddle up in a spooning position. This gives the big spoon access to caress her partner’s body, while the little spoon uses her booty to rub and stimulate. The big spoon can wear a strap on or use their fingers to massage the clit and G-spot.
6. The Pretzel
Lower onto your knees and lean into each other's thighs so that they're criss-crossed (almost like a pretzel). This allows both partner’s clits and vulva to be up against each other's thighs. Rub against each other fast or slow as you desire, while kissing and licking. Don’t forget to use those hands as well!
You deserve to have great sexual intimacy with your partner. We hope these tips will escalate your sex life from “probably” to “yes, please.” Go on, have some fun. Happy Pride Month.
