Have you ever made this kind of commitment to yourself? After bad dates, after being mistreated, have you said, “No more?” Whether you’re single or in a relationship, the truth is that you deserve to be celebrated. One way to learn what you like best is to date yourself. Not just behind closed doors, binging Netflix, but actually going out. If this concept is new to you, don’t worry, we’ve got all the tips and tricks to help you plan the perfect solo date night.
How to Hangout With Yourself
You know what you like to do. You know what makes you happy. Think of the restaurants you’ve always wanted to dine at, book it. Think of the activities you’ve wanted to do, book it. If you’re looking to venture outside of your norms, we’ve got some ideas that will make your solo dates so good, you might never stop.
“Dear singledom, you know what the world hasn’t discovered? The best relationship I’ve ever had was with me. And I won’t settle for less.”
1. Attend a Workshop, Class, or Event
Have you always wanted to attend a culinary cooking class? Perhaps you’re interested in ballroom lessons, painting, pottery, or learning a new language. Find a course near you or if you have the budget, go out of state. Explore your secret skills or finesse them through conferences or local events.
2. Go to a Museum or Art Gallery
Museums and galleries are meant to be savored like a good glass of wine. Sipped slowly. Walk around and relish the education, creativity, and culture.
3. Book a Yoga or Fitness Class
Exercise links us to our physical bodies, helping us check in with our breath and movement. When we feel better physically, our confidence grows and our mental health improves.
4. Catch A Movie
Did that new action flick or comedic romance come out? You don’t have to wait for a friend to see it. Why not take an afternoon off and treat yourself.
5. Book a Spa Day
We all need some TLC from time to time. Book yourself a massage package, facial, or both.
6. Get a Mani & Pedi
There is something to be said for the empowerment of polished nails. When our fingers and toes are looking fly, we are ready to take on the world.
7. Craft a New Look
Feeling good about yourself is a natural confidence booster. You could try out a new hairstyle or hair color. After pinning styles on Pinterest, go out and buy them!
8. Go to a Concert or Musical
Find out when your favorite band is touring near you or check out the local symphony.
9. Shop at Your Local Florist or Farmers Market
Buy yourself flowers, fresh baked goods, or veggies.
10. Get in Touch With Nature
Walk or hike the trails in your area or road trip to National Parks.
11. Create a Garden
You don’t need a backyard to have a garden. You could create a small potted herb garden for your windowsill or hang tomato plants. If you have a patio or deck, you could plant vegetables or fruits in elevated planter boxes or metal totes.
How to Plan For Intimacy
We like that kiss at the end of the night. It gives us that tingling sensation of romance. Here’s the good news, your solo date night can still be steamy. If you’ve never explored yourself before, that’s okay. We have some self-pleasure tips for women that will help you get to know your body and go for the O.
1. Set the Mood
A good romance starts with a good setting. Make it nice for yourself. Pick a good room (maybe a hotel room) and set the scene. Turn down the lights, put on sultry music, and light scented candles.
2. Use Vella Women’s Pleasure Serum
To prep your body for a clitoral or vaginal orgasm, we suggest using our pleasure serum. This serum can be applied 15-25 minutes before solo sex to better stimulate your response. This serum will help you come more easily and intensely.
3. Don’t Rush Exploration
Take your time and relax. Start by stroking your fingers through your hair. Work your way down, slowly touching all of you—ears, neck, lips, nipples, stomach, thighs, etc. Allow yourself to linger on places that spark your pleasure.
4. Clitoral Orgasm
Lay on your back and allow yourself to relax with legs spread apart. Rub or stroke your clitoris with your fingers or you can use a vibrator. Find the rhythm and speed that makes your temperature rise until you come.
5. Vaginal Orgasm
A vaginal orgasm can be achieved with your fingers or with a vibrator. According to Heathline, the best way to get off vaginally is to “move your fingers or toy in a circular, in-and-out, stroking, or combination of motions. It’s best to use a ‘come hither’ motion to stimulate your G-spot. Increase the speed and pressure as the good vibrations begin to build.”
“If you’re going to have a goal for masturbation, allow it to be to experience all the pleasure you can get out of the encounter you’re engaging in,” said Shamyra Howard, a New Orleans-based certified Sex Therapist. “Orgasm is the icing on the cake, but you don’t need to have an orgasm to have a pleasurable sexual experience.”
“Orgasm is the icing on the cake, but you don’t need to have an orgasm to have a pleasurable sexual experience.” ~ Shamyra Howard, Certified Sex Therapist
Remember, a solo date night is about more than just the dessert. It’s about connecting with your inner self and building confidence in who you are. If you want to experience a great relationship with a partner, the best place to begin is by dating yourself. Knowing and loving yourself is the strongest foundation to build upon.